Howdy. I won't tell you my name. If you're visiting this blog, then chances are I've invited you here and you already know who I am.
A little about me: I'm an active-duty Army officer with a graduate education. I'm stationed overseas. I am between 35 and 40 years old. I have one child--a little boy I love more than anyone else on this planet. I make a good living, but I am fucking miserable.
This blog will tell you why. Before I dive in, I want to tell you about my motivation and some of my misgivings. My motivation is simple: I am married to the most horrible person I've ever known, and I simply do not have any recourse. I do not trust the American legal system to award me custody of my son, so I have made a conscious decision to stay in a marriage that is killing me incrementally. I will let you make your own judgments about my spouse. This post serves two purposes: 1.) It is cathartic (allows me to vent in real time); and, 2.) It creates a record of events that are simply to numerous and strange to recall at critical moments (i.e. talking to a judge or to the police).
A few other administrative notes: 1.) I think my wife has serious emotional, psychological and substance abuse issues; 2.) I believe that if you are a male in a relationship such as mine (where the female spouse is sociopathic and/or delusional) then you are simply fucked; 3.) I routinely fear for my own safety as well as the safety of my son; and, finally, 4.) I have been arrested by police in virtually every town we've ever lived in together simply because she (my spouse) has declared her "fear."
In a nutshell, this is my story of what it's like to be a man trapped in the nightmare of a legal system and larger society that simply will not believe that a man can be a victim. Enjoy!
A little about me: I'm an active-duty Army officer with a graduate education. I'm stationed overseas. I am between 35 and 40 years old. I have one child--a little boy I love more than anyone else on this planet. I make a good living, but I am fucking miserable.
This blog will tell you why. Before I dive in, I want to tell you about my motivation and some of my misgivings. My motivation is simple: I am married to the most horrible person I've ever known, and I simply do not have any recourse. I do not trust the American legal system to award me custody of my son, so I have made a conscious decision to stay in a marriage that is killing me incrementally. I will let you make your own judgments about my spouse. This post serves two purposes: 1.) It is cathartic (allows me to vent in real time); and, 2.) It creates a record of events that are simply to numerous and strange to recall at critical moments (i.e. talking to a judge or to the police).
A few other administrative notes: 1.) I think my wife has serious emotional, psychological and substance abuse issues; 2.) I believe that if you are a male in a relationship such as mine (where the female spouse is sociopathic and/or delusional) then you are simply fucked; 3.) I routinely fear for my own safety as well as the safety of my son; and, finally, 4.) I have been arrested by police in virtually every town we've ever lived in together simply because she (my spouse) has declared her "fear."
In a nutshell, this is my story of what it's like to be a man trapped in the nightmare of a legal system and larger society that simply will not believe that a man can be a victim. Enjoy!
